Neurodiversity Acceptance

We believe in a contemporary approach to autism which views our cognitive differences as natural human differences

‘Nothing about us without us!’

The term ‘neurodiversity’ and the neurodiversity movement have become synonymous with the Autism Rights Movement, but it is primarily a focus on neural and cognitive difference. As opposed to being an exclusively autism-focused approach championed by the Autism Rights Movement, it also includes people with diagnoses such as ADHD, dyslexia and bipolar disorder. The central theme is that, rather than being a disorder, these ‘ways of being’ are simply a natural part of human diversity. This does not deny the struggle that many people face, it never has, although it has been misconstrued or misunderstood that this is the case. It is an inclusive and liberating agenda that seeks to benefit everybody. The continued prominence of arguments and theories that view autistic cognitive processes as disordered or a biogenetic puzzle only serve to further alienate, disenfranchise and marginalise us.

Different not Disordered

World Autism Awareness Day 2021.

I can’t face it this year. Not anymore. Not another year of ignorance. I’m done.

The fact this day will be full of neurotypicals dressed in blue with jigsaws all over them, that a huge number of awareness posts on all kinds of social media will be about solidarity with each other over the ‘curse’ of autism that so many neurotypicals have to live with. How hard we are to live with, how they do their best to make us and our challenging behaviour normal, but we don’t appreciate their efforts and fight them. We are so ungrateful for their efforts to quash our identity.

I’m wasting my energy fighting with you. I’m stopping. Another autistic voice silenced.

You don’t listen, you don’t want to hear. It isn’t about us is it? It’s all about you.

We are an aberration, something disordered to be studied. A recent piece of so-called research boldly pronounced that autistic people are deficient because they are too moral. Being too honest is a disorder according to these clinical psychologists. Dana Hunter had a different way of looking at it, “Allistics are less able to follow a moral rule when an immoral action can benefit them; they suffer from a reduced concern about their ill-gotten gains and the moral cost.”

Is this what you want us to aspire to be? Is this what it takes to become part of your world? I’ve been on the receiving end of this, neurotypical people lying about their behaviour and being believed and pushing me to the edge. I end up irreparably damaged and broken and they carry on as before, emboldened and actually profited from it! I’m left to ‘keep on pushing’ and stop talking about it. All I wanted was for one person to do the right thing; I knew the rest wouldn’t, but no; they didn’t. They won. I am left isolated and labelled. Congratulations. You lied, closed ranks and protected each other and in so doing you won. Your immoral group code triumphed, and I know my place. I’ll never forgive or forget.

2021. We are being killed. Literally. Nothing. No response, maybe a ‘like’ on Twitter, guilt assuaged because you have demonstrated support. But ‘people’ support ‘mercy killings’ of autistic human beings because, “Well it’s no life is it!” and with their room temperature IQ’s then go back to Facebook with their Domino’s Pizza, watching ‘Love Island’, absolutely sure that they are right. Another Neurotypical get leniency for murdering an ND child.

We are in the midst of a Government sanctioned eugenics movement, with right wing press highlighting the money firms will save in pension payments as people die. 80% of COVID deaths have been disabled people. Hurrah. How proud you must all be of this policy because you keep supporting them even though we are telling you. But if it doesn’t directly impact upon you… you don’t care.

So there we go. If you fight for rights they dismiss you as a troublemaker or just ignore you.  

This is pointless. No acceptance no place in your world.

Message received and understood.

‘The Language of Us and Them’ by Mayer Shevin

We like things. They fixate on objects.

We try to make friends. They display attention-seeking behaviors.

We take a break. They display off-task behavior.

We stand up for ourselves. They are non-compliant.

We have hobbies. They self-stim.

We choose our friends wisely. They display poor peer socialization.

We persevere. They perseverate.

We love people. They have dependencies on people.

We go for walks. They run away.

We insist. They tantrum.

We change our minds. They are disoriented and have short attention spans.

We are talented. They have splinter skills.

We are human. They are…….?

Mayer Shevin 1987

Restraint Reduction Network

Want to make sure the CQC inspection process works?

Ever experienced a ‘closed culture’?

If so, then we need your help!

This survey closes on 14th February

What is a closed culture?
The Care Quality Commission (CQC) must check that services are protecting people’s ‘human rights’. Human rights make sure people are treated fairly, with respect and in a way that gives them choice and control. Abuse, or not having your human rights met, may happen in services that we say have a ‘closed culture’.

About the Restraint Reduction Network and this ‘CQC Closed Culture Project
The Restraint Reduction Network is committed to supporting human rights and reducing the use of all unnecessary restrictive practices. We do this by listening to people and acting on the advice people give us.

What we need to do

The CQC have asked the Restraint Reduction Network to help them. They want to make their inspection process better so they can find places that are not respecting people and their human rights.

We need to get your views about how inspectors can find a closed culture. We will use a survey so that we can hear from lots of people.

When we have the results from the survey we will then speak to people to find out more detail about how inspectors can better identify a closed culture.

How to get involved − it’s easy!
Complete the survey here. https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/Closed-cultures
Anyone can fill out the survey as long as you have experienced a closed culture. You might have been in a closed culture, a parent of someone that has experienced a closed culture. You may be an advocate or member of staff that has worked in a closed culture. We want to hear from you.

This is our chance to influence the inspection process for the better!
If you have more to say about this project or want to be considered for one of our discussion forums on this topic then email Alexis: a.quinn@restraintreductionnetwork.org

Excellent Website – Therapist Neurodiversity Collective

An international collective of SLPs/OTs/PTs who believe that neurological differences are to be recognized and respected as any other human variation. Our mission is to provide FREE public access to pro-neurodiversity focused therapists, to advocate with our therapists and the neurodivergent and disabled populations we serve, and to provide education for therapy practices and methodologies which presume competence, are non-trauma inducing and which respect human rights, dignity and sensory preferences. https://therapistndc.org/

Autism Spectrum Conditions and Self-Diagnosis

There is much debate over the validity of a ‘self-diagnosis’ for neurodivergent people. This site fully supports the right for people to self-diagnose and find a sense of self within our “community”. The reality of the case is that the vast majority of people seek a formal diagnosis precisely because they think they may diverge from neurotypicality. I know I did. I was on the receiving end of 3 different incorrect diagnoses before I was given my clinical accusation of autism. One of them was Borderline Personality Disorder, and I knew this wasn’t me so I challenged it. The Psychiatrist smugly held up a piece of paper and pointed out that many people with BPD challenge the diagnosis, so I had proved his opinion correct. I’m not sure he had heard language like mine in his consultation room before but he stuck to his decision.

I then spent hours, days, years reading articles, books, blogs… well anything and everything related to mental health and cognitive difference. Then I discovered this thing called Asperger’s syndrome. It fitted. I self-diagnosed, but knew this was correct well before I met with the Clinical Psychologist for confirmation. She agreed. I had finally found out which banner I should march behind – if I ever plucked up the courage to do that sort of thing! I read a post this week from a Clinical Psychologist who said he had never met anybody who self-diagnosed who wasn’t correct in their conclusion.

Let’s keep in mind that there could be any number of reasons why a person doesn’t get a formal diagnosis; I tried through the NHS via my GP but was told that as I was an adult – and a ‘high functioning’ one (their words) then the priority for funding would go to children. I get that on many levels, but won’t pretend that I wasn’t furious at the time! What about me? What about the challenges I faced? I was lucky enough to have a credit card that I could max out and go private. I still resent this now, all these years later.

Because society doesn’t value disabled people, we are often left struggling on our own. Alone. To access support, we have to prove our disability… on a daily basis. We have to prove we ‘deserve’ funding and it will remain this way whilst we remain under the grip of neoliberalism and capitalism. We will never be ‘insiders’ within this system, so what would possibly be gained from self-identification as autistic? You won’t be able to access support in workplace or society, but if you have been through the distress and trauma of not knowing who you are and your place in the world, then you will understand it. If you can find a ‘name’ for why you don’t fit, then you seize it and embrace it. You are pretty much sure to be correct.

Maybe the person doesn’t feel the need to seek a formal diagnosis, maybe they are too afraid of the stigma and negativity that come with it. They may still feel the need to reach out to others like themselves; I know I did! This is the joy of the connected world we live in, it is easier than ever before to reach out and find a friendly contact. If you are self-diagnosed then please do reach out.

There are some elitist sites who deny access or recognition to people without a formal diagnosis, yet rail at the arbitrary nature of clinical psychology and the vagaries of their stereotyped opinions of who and what we are based on our behaviour. Double standards abound in the online autism world. Ignore their ignorance, I’m sure they have their reasons, but they are undoubtedly flawed.

If you do self-diagnose as being neurodivergent, then you are very welcome here. We probably have a lot in common…or not…but that’s OK too.